How To Distract Yourself From Self-Harm – The 100 Method List

Having seen so many lists of self-harm distractions I set myself the task of thinking of 100 different ways to distract myself from cutting. All of the methods had to be something I could just get up and do straight away, and they had to be realistic… which means no trips to the moon, sadly! I told myself I wouldn’t look at any other lists while I do this, so everything on this list is either thought of as I type or from my memory of methods I’ve read in the past. This list could be used as a “to do when bored” list but I hope you find something on here to stop yourself from self-harming. If one doesn’t work you have another 99 to try.

1) Scream as loud as you can
2) Call a friend
3) Put ice on your skin
4) Cry
5) Go for a walk
6) Play a video game
7) Write a letter to your future self
8) Revise for your exams
9) Play loud music and dance
10) Watch TV

Click here for 4 in-depth methods of combatting self-harm.

SpanishNotes11) Learn some new words in a foreign language
12) Tear up a newspaper
13) Eat some fruit
14) Meditate
15) Draw on your skin with red marker
16) Have bath or shower
17) Yoga
18) Fly a kite
19) Go for a drive
20) Bake a cake

21) Eat chocolate
22) Feed ducks at the park
23) Debate with yourself
24) Take some photos
25) Create a new blog
26) Finger paint
27) Punch a cushion or pillow
28) Ask yourself “Why do I want to self-harm?”
29) Text a friend
30) Write a letter to a friend

Thinking of more than self-harm? How to tell someone you are suicidal.

Poem31) Make a wish list
32) Kick a football against a wall
33) Play with a dog at the park
34) Write a poem
35) Go for a run
36) Watch a movie
37) Find your pet and hug them
38) Snap a rubber band on your wrist
39) Read a book
40) Sleep

41) Think about what you will do tomorrow
42) Play the guitar or piano (badly)
43) Play catch
44) Do 10 push-ups
45) Count to 100
46) Write a short story
47) Make sock puppets
48) Discover a new Youtube channel
49) Write messages on sticky notes, and stick them all over your room
50) Learn to moonwalk

Hip hop songs related to mental illness, or to make you feel better.

CastleDrawing51) Do 10 sit-ups
52) Set yourself a 5 minute time limit for not self-harming
53) Doodle
54) Count insects in your garden
55) Reorganise furniture
56) Throw out or swap old clothes
57) Go and get some coffee
58) Call a helpline
59) Find a random item under your bed
60) Clean your room

61) Think about your dream holiday
62) Type the alphabet on your keyboard
63) Learn to program on the computer – and make something
64) Memorise a famous poem
65) Origami
66) Uninstall old phone apps
67) Listen to a new genre of music
68) Unravel string, and ravel it back up
69) Tell some jokes
70) Daydream

Seven Self-Harm Myths Busted!

Coins71) Do 10 star jumps
72) Count how many coins you have
73) Learn how to start a fire
74) Do an impression of a celebrity
75) Start your family tree
76) Buy a flower for a random person on the street
77) Cut coupons out of a newspaper/magazine
78) Squeeze a stress ball
79) Draw a self portrait
80) Write a list of your achievements

81) Write a bucket list
82) Read an old diary/blog entry
83) Create a memory box
84) Hug yourself
85) Complete a Sudoku
86) Play solitaire
87) Stare at the sky
88) Do some gardening
89) Ask yourself “Do I want scars in the future?”
90) Stretch

Click here for the first part of the “Unusual Methods to Combat Self-Harm Series”.

91) Forgive someone
92) Throw away your self-harm tools
93) Learn about a foreign culture
94) Complete a crossword
95) Play a board game with someone
96) Write 5 reasons why Depressionless is your favourite blogger
97) Make a cup of tea
98) Jump on your bed
99) Smile
100) Celebrate

Honestly, I wrote this list by myself. I’m pretty tired because this took a very long time, at the end you can tell I was running out of ideas (although, smiling will make you feel better). I hope you have found something to do the next time you want to self-harm. What is your favourite method for distracting yourself? Which methods have you found work best? Like always, my amazing readers, share below!

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How To Tell Someone You Are Suicidal

So how do you tell someone you are suicidal? Who do you tell? Oh no, you can’t choose them… Or you can’t tell them that… This post should answer some of your questions about telling someone about your suicidal thoughts, or intent to commit suicide, based on my own experiences and the experiences of other that I have heard about.

Firstly, should I tell someone?
The short answer is yes. All health professionals would agree that sharing your feelings and thoughts will help you. When you get your feelings out it will be easier to receive help but it will also feel less of a burden. When I first told my friend I did not get the reaction I was expecting, but it still made me feel better and realise suicide is not my only option.

Who should I talk to?
The important thing is that you feel comfortable to explain as much as you need. The person you tell should be someone you trust, someone who you know will do what you tell them to (such as not tell anyone). If you tell someone in your close friendship or work group it has the possibility of making things uncomfortable. I chose someone who I don’t see everyday (we do text often though) as I didn’t want to be around them all the time, if I miss them for a day I don’t want them worried. On the other hand, if you tell someone you are close to they will be there for you more often, meaning they can help more. If you are at school and tell a teacher or adult, they will have to get other people involved.

What or how much should I tell them?
As much as you are comfortable with saying. The truth is the best. If you have a plan and need help, make sure you tell them. You are unlikely to get help if you do not ask for it. They may ask how they can help, and if you don’t know then say that. Tell them that them listening is help. Don’t be afraid to say you don’t know certain things such as why you feel the way you do.

What will they ask me
This depends on the person, they may not ask some of the things I list below but they may ask some of them.
– Why do you feel like this?
– How can I help?
– Have you attempted anything before?
– Do you have any plans?
– Who else knows about your thoughts?

How will they react?
That depends on who you tell. Firstly know that telling a non-professional means you are unlikely to get the response you expect, although it will still help. Imagine if your friend told you that they were thinking of suicide. Imagine how you would react. Whoever you tell will be shocked, they wont know what to say. There will probably be long moments of silence, but that is because they will have to process what you are saying, it is not easy finding out that someone you love wants to kill themselves. Don’t expect tears (people don’t cry when I tell them, strange?) but don’t be surprised if they come. If you tell them that you have a plan (or they are worried) they will possibly tell someone else such as a friend or professional, but if this happens do not worry as you may need the help. Only say as much as you want to.

Can I talk to a helpline instead?
Yes, of course! I talked to a helpline before I talked to my friend, and many people will talk to helplines without talking to someone they know. Helplines can be a great way to relieve any worries without dealing with as much emotion as telling someone you love. Personally, I recommend you do choose to talk to someone you know at some point as helplines as useful but cannot provide the emotional support of someone you know (I suffer from depression, and I find emotional support is very important for me). You can find some helplines for your country by clicking here.

I’ve told them, now what?
Give them some time to think it over. You will know that having suicidal thoughts is hard to deal with, but knowing someone else has suicidal thoughts is also hard. If they do not approach you for the rest of the day, that is fine. Talk to them the next day and ask if they have any questions for you, and assure them that you are alright. I can’t give great advice on this as every situation will be unique. But well done for telling someone!

Seven Self-Harm Myths, Busted!

The UK has one of the highest rates of self-harm in Europe, but many people still do not know these simple facts about self-harm. The stigma created by many of the myths in this post stop many people seeking help about their self-harm problems. Attention seekers? Suicidal? Dangerous? There are loads of myths that can be broken down by simply analysing the statement or doing simple research. These myths have all been proven wrong but not enough people know that, so I have given seven common myths and the truth (and lies) behind them.

“People who self-harm are attention seeking”
Sadly, a majority of people who self-harm do it secretly, it is possible you know someone who self-harms. Self-harm is a common way of coping with problems, it may give a person feelings when they are numb or physical pain to get rid of the emotional pain. There will be a few people who self-harm for attention, but they are likely to only harm once or twice, if they continue to do it over a long period of time they may have other issues in their life. This myth often stops people coming forward and seeking help.

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“Self-harm means cutting”
Cutting is one form of self-harm, but there are several others. Excessively scratching your skin, burning yourself, pricking yourself with needles, overdosing, these are all other methods of self-harm. It should now seem obvious that anything you do to intentionally harm yourself could be considered self-harm.

“If someone self-harms they are dangerous”
This is a complicated one, it does make sense but not how many people think. If someone self-harms they could be dangerous to themselves. A majority of methods of self-harm could easily go wrong, for example someone may cut their wrist too deep or hold their hand in a flame for too long. Someone who self-harms is dangerous so you should try to help and educate them to make sure they do not do something they will regret in the future. On the other hand, you are unlikely to be in danger by hanging around with someone who self-harms. They will only harm themselves. When self-harm turns to suicidal thoughts, you should be more concerned for both their and your safety, but remember that the person who self-harms is in far more danger than you.

Want ideas to combat your self-harm cravings? Click here.

“People who self-harm can stop when they want”
You would probably not say this about a drug addict, or an alcoholic. Self-harm can become an addiction, self-harm has been shown to release chemicals that boost the mood. When someone has problems in their life, these chemicals may be their only way of coping so they become addicted. I am addicted to self-harm, and I am trying to stop with the help of my friend and professionals. If someone is addicted to self-harm, they will not be able to stop on their own. Would you expect a drug addict to just give up?

I wanted happy pictures, so I brought my smiley face back. Smile!

I wanted happy pictures, so I brought my smiley face back. Smile!

“If someone self-harms they are suicidal”
Self-harm is a way of living, not dying. As mentioned before, someone who self-harms is using it to cope with the problems in their life. Self-harm can be linked to suicide and can lead to accidental death but a majority of people self-harm to cope.

“If the wound isn’t bad we don’t need to worry”
Just because blood is not pouring out, or the cut is so deep you can see muscles and tendons, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t worry. Personally, when I am suffering the most emotionally I will do lots of smaller cuts. This does not apply to everyone, but you cannot judge emotions based on one wound. Always take self-harm seriously.

“They must have a serious mental illness if they self-harm”
It is understandable where this myth can come from, why would your average person hurt themselves? Self-harm should be used as an indication that there are problems in a persons life, but those problems may not necessarily be a serious mental illness. This does not rule out an illness, but talking to the person will probably give you a better understanding of why they self-harm.

A poem about the feelings of depression, and the battle faced by those who suffer from it.

There we have it, seven myths busted! Or re-busted… or explained again so that people can learn… Anyway, for people to feel comfortable with their self-harming they must know that will not be judged, they must know that those they talk to know the truth about self-harm. Are there any more myths you believe people should know are not true? Or do you want to discuss one of the myths above? Share in the comments below, and remember, if you self-harm you are not alone.